An African Countess' Blog

I, Agbeke Adefunke Adeboye will totally date/marry someone 20years older... HAPPY NEW YEAR FAM!!! I know. I know… and I have no excuse. Absolutely none! In my defense, I actually started to write a couple of times but then I either lost the document(s) or somehow, I just didn't get round to completing them… I’m so sorry. I promise, it will be better this year. (yeah, I know today’s date already...hehe ) Okay, let’s get straight to the meat of the matter… I recently met 2 really REALLY cool guys (at different times)… They love God, can strike and keep a conversation, downright intelligent, well-read and travelled, driven, down-to-earth, thoughtful, spontaneous, one of them even likes Mercedes, and all those nice things BUT, he’s 40ish - both of them. So for the first time, I actually really gave it some thought, very serious thought o, like: “I could totally date/marry someone up to 20 years older than me” *dodges slaps and stones…lol Eas...

  I'd seen him on TV a lot of times, and his performance was always stellar. Without fail. I'd heard my Dad talk about him a couple of times, (they worked together in NTA for so many years) and he always had nice things to say about him. ALWAYS. His daughter, Funto was in my class in Secondary School (in fact, her seat was just in front of mine) and I remember a certain Val's Day, he sent her some Val gifts and I was totally in awe 'cause that wasn't something I was very familiar with... :) ...And then, I landed my first major MC job: The Pepsi/Mirinda 50cl Launch in Kwara (I can't exactly remember how it was phrased)  and guess who I was blessed to be co-hosting with; BENKAY!!! I was age 19/20 and I was soooo nervous, you can't imagine. There were so many much older people there, in fact, I had to invite my friend Femi (Phera), so at least I'll know there was someone I know in the audience; but then he was... I can't even start to...

Growing up, I remember when you’re having a fight with your friend or classmate, it is an ‘elemi loma last’ (survival of the fittest) situation; i.e you just want to have the final say in the ‘battle of words’ or you bear the shame of ‘losing’. And so, you go all out, use words and phrases like: ‘American Dustbin’, ‘Nigerian Baboon’, ‘Stupid’, ‘Amebo Business Centre’, ‘Go and brush your mouth before you talk to me’, ‘Shut up’, ‘Shut down’ "Mind your freaking business", and so on... I was a well brought up ‘good girl’ (still ‘am’ :) ), plus I don’t consider myself a confrontational person, and so I didn’t usually get into those war of words, I’ll just let u ‘abuse me’ and go; at times when I was very enraged, I’ll just say ‘silence is the best answer for a fool like you’, or ‘I wish you what you wish me’ but I always felt bad after every of such ‘fight’. And so, you can imagine my joy when I opened my Bible one day and stumbled on I Thes 4:11: “Make it you...

 22 RANDOM THINGS MOST PEOPLE DON'T KNOW ABOUT MOI :) I’m 22 tomorrow (July 17) and even though I might not have had ‘favorite childhood memories’ like ‘regular’ people, I’ve been such a blessssed girl. I’m so grateful to God. He’s given me a life better than I ever could have lived on my own. I’m actually a very private person, I don’t like to talk about myself but I just feel so excited about this birthday and I feel like sharing 22 of some of the things most people don’t know about me with you. I won’t go into details, sorry :-p ..hehe... UPDATE: A friend of mine said to me, "I read through this list and most of the things you wrote tell me absolutely nothing about you that I didn't know before, why are you so tight-fisted about information about yourself?"... Plus, my friend, Femi 'Phera' Joshua nominated me to say 20 things about me on instagram recently, so I decided to kuku 'UPdate' this list...some new points have been adde...

Hello my Sunshine/Prince, Where do I start to express my love for you? I love you so much already, though you’re not even on your way yet and Imma love you some more when you arrive. I trust that God is working to mould me into becoming that perfect mother for the perfect soul that he’ll hand-pick and customise just for me and my lord. I know you can’t read this right now but I know you’ve been conceived in God’s mind.  And really, God knows way more about you than I ever will. Please love Him with your whole heart and obey Him. He has shown me over and over again that He never ever leaves; and I’ll really love for you to experience Him firsthand, you’ll be very blessed.

  I'm sure the ear of the world is full with shouts of #BringBackOurGirls right now as it should be.   About 276 schoolgirls between the ages of 16 and 18 were abducted by the Boko Haram extremists at gunpoint on April 14 from their rooms at the Government Girls Secondary School in Chibok, Nigeria, where they had been sleeping and 'nothing' has been heard of them ever since. And another 8 were abducted yesterday by these same guys o, in that same Borno!   How evil can people make themselves to be? And how nonchalant can some other people be? Yesterday on Twitter, one of those white guys said 'I know now CNN will be all over the Chibok Girls story, well, somebody has to be'. (did you get that?)   It is no longer funny at all and I can't even start to pour out my frustration right now, those who follow me on twitter (@CountessPIA), can bear witness that I've been going on and on about this because I'm first a g...

This one’s for The Man Who Will One Day Become My Soul-Mate in Crime *wink. # Dear future Husband of mine, How are you, mi loveness? I’m not totally sure what my purpose in writing this letter is; I guess I just really wanted to talk to you. It’s so weird that I haven’t met you and I’m writing you, right? Well...  I have sooo many things I wanna say to you and gist you about and I don’t even know how to coordinate those thoughts and make them rhyme. So, this letter may seem all over the place, just be attentive, you’ll understand, because you’re sooo super smart...mwaaah. Right now, my love life is rather lacklustre  and I am heart-broken right now, I'll gist you... but I’m not embarrassed one bit about it or ashamed of not having a serious relationship (or a string of silly relationships). That mostly has to do with my determination not to date someone *just* to date them. I want more than that from my love life and I know you’re absolutely wort...