Growing up, I remember when you’re having a fight with your friend or classmate, it is an ‘elemi loma last’ (survival of the fittest) situation; i.e you just want to have the final say in the ‘battle of words’ or you bear the shame of ‘losing’. And so, you go all out, use words and phrases like: ‘American Dustbin’, ‘Nigerian Baboon’, ‘Stupid’, ‘Amebo Business Centre’, ‘Go and brush your mouth before you talk to me’, ‘Shut up’, ‘Shut down’ "Mind your freaking business", and so on... I was a well brought up ‘good girl’ (still ‘am’ :) ), plus I don’t consider myself a confrontational person, and so I didn’t usually get into those war of words, I’ll just let u ‘abuse me’ and go; at times when I was very enraged, I’ll just say ‘silence is the best answer for a fool like you’, or ‘I wish you what you wish me’ but I always felt bad after every of such ‘fight’. And so, you can imagine my joy when I opened my Bible one day and stumbled on I Thes 4:11: “Make it you...
