'Hello, good evening'
If for nothing but spite, I wanted to add 'besides, the kind
of men I do don't marry women like you'... but my Momma taught me better than
that.
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'What the hell is good about the evening you evil prostitute...'
'Ah! I beg your pardon? Who is this and what are you on about?' (I can
be so civil...lol)
'Don't pretend like you don't know what you've done, Ashewo oshi. Leave my husband alone!!!' she
went on and on and ... hehe
'Ah Egbami!!!' (lol, I switched to Yoruba ni straight *rotfl*) 'Madam, I don't know you. I have no idea
what husband you are referring to either'
'SHUT UP! Hypocrite, so you are pretending abi? Just stay away
from my husband; he has a wife and kids. Stop calling at odd times. HE IS MARRIED! Idiot'
*dial tone*
OMG! my first reaction was intense laughter, e
dey do me like dream. I couldn't believe that I had just experienced some WAP
Super story/Africa Magic Yoruba iiish in first person. Me!
Of course she got a wrong number!
I didn't pay so much attention to that incidence ‘cos I understand
that ‘dollar ti won’ so everyone's blood is running hot ...
and we're all tryna find a scapegoat on whom to transfer all the aggression.
Recent happenings in my life have taught me what works for me,
what doesn't, and all the other stuff I still have to figure out...but all in
all, I've chilllllllleeeddd!
Meanwhile as I write this, I'm still tryna ‘heal’ from turning
down a G63 AMG... so I'm still a lil sore and emotional. Be warned! *sigh
Like I said, I've learnt to chill; or better put, I'm learning
to chill more - on very many levels…
We all battle with some level of insecurity from time to time.
I know from personal experience that if your partner doesn't show
any concern whatsoever about who you're hanging with, and do not care what you
do with people of the opposite gender, then something is fishy. It's either
they don't think you're worth the effort
or they couldn't care less because their heart isn't even with you. Trust me...
…But I also know that Insecurity/jealousy makes us do a lot of
stupid things. Like the woman who called me... Why oh why would you choose to ridicule
yourself like that? Some people even go to the extent of hiring a private
investigator… Wow!
The 'to snoop or not to snoop in a relationship‘ topic was raised
in my office recently and of course 'to snoop' won.
I've snooped before. You'll be surprised the kinda hacking into I have done... (they'll be locking phone and computer and I’ll just
be looking at them like: 'You no reach Lagos you no know Eyo'...those
who know, know...hehe... *lips sealed). Don’t look at me like that, sometimes
a sister just wants to alleviate her fears (or confirm them) but TO WHAT
END??? You wee just kee yourself lasan lasan...smh
I’ve heard the saying: “Bae ain’t Bae if Bae don’t snoop/stalk”.
*sigh
I don't like to talk about anything that's got to do with
relationships 'cos I realize what is good for the
goose might not be so good for the gander...
But see ehn, I've learnt
that if the stressing ain't putting money in
your pocket, or joy/peace in your heart, then consider stressing over something else... Life
is too short!
Generally, even if someone snoops and doesn't find anything, it
doesn't alleviate their worry; instead they just think they haven't found the
evidence yet, or (s)he’s good at hiding ‘it’.
It usually doesn't go: "oh
I didn't find anything on his/her phone, (s)he must be very faithful." (I told you I've snooped before)
If you don't think you can have any sort of faith whatsoever
in whoever you are in a relationship with for whatever reason then you're
just wasting your emotions, time and energy. My opinion, of course. A relationship without trust is inherently
dysfunctional, and going nowhere.
If you have to snoop as a part of 'regular maintenance' in a relationship then it’s not worth it... still my opinion.
Everyone I spoke with on the snooping issue, agreed that
if there's openness in the relationship, they would be no need to snoop on
each other. So we all can help by being downright down-to-earth and
accountable. Also, be open about your feelings, and allow your partner express themselves.
My name is Priscilla Adeboye, I am pro communication and accountability.
I realize this isn't the most articulate article I've written but I'm just a lil girl trying to share and it's the thought that
counts, yes? Please let me know your thoughts *winks*
Unity and Faith, Peace and Progress...
xx
Lol! But I can't believe this funny situation happened 2 my own dear friend; definitely, this woman is angry, frustrated,and insecured in her marriage, but truth be told to all spinsters (because am one and can only speak in that capacity).When someone treats you like you are one of many options, why not help them narrow down their choice, by removing yourself from the equation. Sometimes, you just have to try not to care, no matter how much you do; because sometimes you can mean almost nothing to someone who means so much to you.Its not pride but SELF RESPECT. Don't give part - time people, full - time in your life, know your value and what you have to offer, and never you settle for anything less than what you deserve!!!
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DeleteLOL....Thanks doll...xx
True talk.....
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DeleteThis is so true tho, to start snooping is to keep at it. Astute points. And who cares for articulate. You put your thoughts out there, so relatable. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteThanks G! You make me want to be better...xx
DeleteThe read was good. I like the personal feel of the write up which I think blogging is all about anyway. kudos.
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